Why Am I So Angry: Breaking The Cycle?

“Anger” is a natural human emotion. It is often valid and even necessary. It’s our instinctive way of responding to a threat. That threat could be physical, like someone trying to harm you. It could be financial, like losing a job. Or it could be something that disrupts your peace, freedom, or sense of control. No matter the situation, when we feel threatened, our natural response is to protect ourselves.

But here’s the problem—when “anger” isn’t handled in a healthy way, it can become destructive. We see it play out in everyday life: A parent lashes out at a child. That child, in turn, takes their frustration out on someone else. We snap at the driver going too slow, curse the person who took “our” parking spot, or unload on a customer service rep who’s just trying to help.

For too long, we’ve justified our reactions: “This should’ve never happened.” “They should have known better.” “Things should have been done right the first time.” But ignoring or excusing our anger doesn’t make it go away. It just gives it more power over us and another opportunity to hurt someone else.

So, take a moment. Pause and ask yourself: Why am I so angry? Go back in your mind to when it all started. What’s the real source of your hostility? Is it feelings of betrayal, disrespect, powerlessness, abandonment, shame, disapproval, insecurity, or even disappointment in yourself? Acknowledge it. Own any part you played in it. Then, make the decision to: Let It Go!

Don’t let anger hold you hostage any longer. Choose today to move forward, whether that means turning to God for strength and guidance or seeking the help of a professional. Healing starts with a decision. Make that decision today!

Standing with you as you let go,

Debra